Soberlink Blog

Discussing the sober truth of alcohol, recovery, and aftercare monitoring

You Are Not Alone in Your Addiction

When you hear the word “alcoholic” what do you think of?

Those who have little experience with substance abuse will likely picture a drunk living on the street or passed out in an alleyway. It’s rare that alcoholics fit this stereotype, but those who do tend to be the most public. The stigma that develops from the image of a drunk in an alleyway is detrimental to people in recovery for two reasons.

First, if they don’t fit that stereotype, it is easier for them to deny their own problem.

Second, they can be fearful of the judgment if they admit they are alcoholics and not seek the help they need. Some alcoholics avoid treatment for years because of denial. Acceptance is the only way to get them into treatment: both acceptance of self and acceptance of others.

Rebuilding Trust During Recovery

People in early recovery often raise some variation of the following issue at group sessions:

“I’ve been sober for 6 months and my mother still doesn’t trust me to be on my own. She thinks that if I spend a single day out of her sight I will pick up a bottle again.”

You cannot force trust; it will take time and patience to restore. Think back and try to understand how your drinking has affected your loved ones. They will need to process everything you have been through together and go through their own healing. While you walk through your recovery, don’t lose sight of these 3 important details to help you rebuild trust:

Accept and Forgive.

Turn your focus inward and start work on bettering yourself. You should be practicing forgiveness with yourself and others, now is the time for healing. While it is true that rebuilding trust in recovery means taking a hard look at your own behavior, you need to realize that you cannot control the actions or reactions of others. You must learn to accept this because letting go of that control is an important step in your recovery.

The same is true about waiting for apologies from those who have wronged you. Forgive them, and move on.

Navigating Friendships After Divorce

Once married couples find other couple friends to brighten up weekends and attend concerts with, it’s tough to let them go. After all, they’ve spent months or years getting to know them, sharing important life stories, meals, and children’s events. It took effort to grow as close. And now . . . what?

Is Chronic Binge Drinking the Same as Alcoholism?

This is kind of a tough one, as the answer is yes and no. To fully explore this topic, we need to have a confirmed definition of what binge drinking is. Luckily, the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism provides us with one. According to the NIAAA, you are a binge drinker if you are a man who consumes more than four alcoholic drinks in one day or a total of 15 or more in one week or a woman who consumes more than three alcoholic drinks in one day or a total of eight or more in one week.

Parenting: The Importance of Asking for Help

No matter how much you love being a parent, there may come a day when you feel like you’re overwhelmed by the demands of life, your job, and your family, but you feel like you need to soldier through rather than admit you might need to talk to someone about your anxiety. Or perhaps you’re a new parent and you’re worried that you don’t quite have the hang of this “parenting” thing; best just to struggle through and deal with it as well as you can, right?

Supporting a Loved One in Recovery

It has been proven that individuals in treatment for alcoholism will have a higher success rate with outside support. In fact, it is one of the most important factors in maintaining long-term recovery. That being said, many friends and family members don’t know what to do in order to support the person struggling with addiction. The answer to this one is pretty simple: just ask.

How to Say No To Your Kids

Sometimes, saying no to your kids is the right answer, but for some parents, saying no can be hard. “No” is often met with tantrums, which leads many parents to dodge the answer in the first place. However, children need to hear the word “no” as it helps them better understand decision making. If you’re struggling to say no to your children, take a look at these tips.

Dealing with Denial of Addiction

Sometimes people don’t see the things we want them to see: their boss is taking advantage of them at work, their significant other is cheating, or an outfit is not as flattering as they might think. These situations are fairly minor in comparison to a loved one in denial about his or her addiction. To an outsider, it looks insane that a person who keeps a bottle of beer by their bedside and another next to the shower just to get through the morning is unaware they have a drinking problem. But to the person struggling with addiction, it’s just a normal way to get through the day.

People in denial of their addictions are not stupid, but their judgment is clouded because they are in the throes of a potentially life-threating disease. To maintain their current lifestyle, which is ruled by the addictive substance, they are in the grips of a state of mind that allows them to avoid the consequences of their behavior.