Soberlink Blog

Discussing the sober truth of alcohol, recovery, and aftercare monitoring

Drinking was My Escape from Reality

I was born in February 27th, 1976, to two married parents, and a sister, who is two years older than me. My dad worked in a bank branch, and my mom, a former teacher, stayed home with my sister and me until we were in school. Childhood seemed pretty normal, although we weren’t poor; we certainly lived a very simple life. I remember my mother would occasionally say, “hey, I have been saving some money, let’s go out to eat.” Although exciting at the time, going out to eat meant something like Arby’s, nothing fancy.

My father has always been very into sports, which translated over to me as well. My mother was interested in music and the arts, which was passed on to my sister. That seemed to work well. I remember at age five going to my first Cincinnati Reds game. From that point on, baseball became my favorite sport. I played many other sports growing up, basketball, football, soccer, but baseball was my favorite.

Supervised vs. Unsupervised Parenting

In most custody arrangements that aren’t equally or jointly divided, one parent is considered custodial and awarded sole custody of the children. The other parent is non-custodial, but is typically awarded parenting time, or the right to see and visit with their children on a set schedule. There are two major types of parenting time: supervised and unsupervised. The main difference between the two is essentially an additional adult chaperone.

Monitoring Leads to Successful Recovery

Recovery is ongoing; it isn’t achieved in a short, 30-day period. Addiction is classified as a chronic illness, and relapse is an unfortunate reality that the recovery community actively works to prevent through various methods.

One such method of fending off relapse is monitoring programs. Monitoring typically consists of some form of testing (random or scheduled) and consistent communication with a clinician or case manager. Monitoring allows patients and clinicians to be aware of recovery progress and intervene if necessary to intervene to reduce and hopefully eliminate relapse episodes.

The Poster Child for Self Will Run Riot

I can look back over the years that I was drinking and get sick to my stomach when I think about the hundreds of times that I was probably within inches or seconds of my life. From blood alcohol levels that could have killed me, to getting sick and vomiting in bed, being in blackouts to find out that I almost got hit by a car from stumbling into the street or walking off a 5 story roof deck thinking it was the steps down to my apartment, to the many times I got in my car and drove drunk or walked home in the middle of the night alone.

I like to think I had this task force of guardian angles looking over me. Angels of grace, if you will. There is nothing else I can credit to still being alive today.

The average person probably has a couple of guardian angles who can track everything through something like a cell phone app. Nope, not mine or any other active alcoholic for that matter. We keep them on high alert 24/7. I imagine it to be something like a control center for some government agency with monitors everywhere with constant beeping of warning sounds when I was putting my life in danger (which was often).

Through All of My Ups and Downs

Soberlink has changed my life in the best way possible.

I’ve been in over 25 rehabs in 8 states since 1990. At my lowest I was drinking bottles of hairspray, hand sanitizer, and rubbing alcohol. Nothing ever seemed to keep me sober and I’ve been to some of the best facilities in the nation. I’ve been hospitalized over thirty times.

Visibility is Key

Soberlink has been helpful in allowing me to be accountable to my daughter. The routine of submitting tests gives my family a level of comfort and helps with my efforts to re-establish trust with them. It is a very helpful tool on this road towards recovery.