Soberlink Blog

Discussing the sober truth of alcohol, recovery, and aftercare monitoring

Creating a Co-Parenting Schedule

Working on creating a visitation schedule for a family that’s recently separated is never easy, but creating a formal schedule can help smooth over a lot of bumps in the road before they even happen. No matter how well you and your former spouse get along, having a schedule you can reference gives both of you a solid frame you can build your new relationship around without risking further stress on your children.

Proving Alcoholism in Custody Cases

Child custody can be a contentious issue even in the most amicable of divorces. The problem only worsens when alcohol abuse is involved. Specifically, it can be a point of contention in three different ways:

  • Both parents have alcohol problems and face losing custody altogether.
  • One parent accuses the other of having a drinking problem and requests sole custody.
  • A parent is suspected of drinking to excess during visitations with the child, whether it is a sole custody or shared situation.

    None of these issues are cut and dry because the following questions will come up:

    (1) Can you prove that the parent is, in fact, alcohol dependent?

    (2) Is one parent accusing the other without merit?

    (3) What effect does any drinking during visits have on the child’s well-being?

    Proving alcoholism in custody cases is relatively easy in certain situations– for example, if the parent has a recent history of alcohol-related arrests and/or they are attending a court-mandated treatment program. Some will also admit that they have a problem during court proceedings and enter treatment voluntarily. If neither of these things happens, most “evidence” will be based on hearsay. In the worst-case scenario, the child becomes the informant, “spying” on the accused parent and reporting back to the other — which can be severely damaging to all involved.

  • Alcohol Withdrawal Symptoms

    When someone wakes up after a night of drinking and feels dehydrated, nauseous and achy, we label this a hangover – a side effect of drinking too much. When an alcoholic or dependent drinker wakes up after a night of drinking, he or she will have different symptoms, due to drinking what their brain perceives as too little.

    Since over time the body and brain become used to a steady flow of alcohol, withdrawal begins immediately when that perceived need is not being fed. This is why many who are dependent are compelled to drink first thing in the morning each and every day. They do not want to experience these symptoms of alcohol withdrawal.

    Withdrawal Symptoms

    The severity of alcohol withdrawal symptoms will depend on many factors, the major one being how long an individual has been drinking heavily. As a general rule, individuals will experience minor withdrawal symptoms after a heavy drinking period of between 7 and 30 days and major symptoms after a period of more than a month to several years of regular alcohol abuse.