Working on creating a visitation schedule for a family that’s recently separated is never easy, but creating a formal schedule can help smooth over a lot of bumps in the road before they even happen. No matter how well you and your former spouse get along, having a schedule you can reference gives both of you a solid frame you can build your new relationship around without risking further stress on your children.
Discussing the sober truth of alcohol, recovery, and aftercare monitoring
Child custody can be a contentious issue even in the most amicable of divorces. The problem only worsens when alcohol abuse is involved. Specifically, it can be a point of contention in three different ways:
None of these issues are cut and dry because the following questions will come up:
(1) Can you prove that the parent is, in fact, alcohol dependent?
(2) Is one parent accusing the other without merit?
(3) What effect does any drinking during visits have on the child’s well-being?
Proving alcoholism in custody cases is relatively easy in certain situations– for example, if the parent has a recent history of alcohol-related arrests and/or they are attending a court-mandated treatment program. Some will also admit that they have a problem during court proceedings and enter treatment voluntarily. If neither of these things happens, most “evidence” will be based on hearsay. In the worst-case scenario, the child becomes the informant, “spying” on the accused parent and reporting back to the other — which can be severely damaging to all involved.
It’s simple: you want each encounter with your child to be meaningful, no matter how frequently your parenting time schedule allows you to see them.
Once you make the decision to incorporate monitoring into your child custody arrangement, you’ll then have to decide how frequently monitoring should occur. Typically you’ll
When deciding between monitoring only during parenting time or daily monitoring, it’s important to consider the degree of alcohol dependence your custody arrangement entails. Those