The recovery community is full of people who use, or have used, Soberlink and are blazing a new trail in sobriety. Read their stories* below and/or share your story.
A Great Head Start
My Daughter Has Her Mom Back
A New Chapter
Why Couldn't They Trust Me
Grateful for Sobriety
Peace of Mind
Voluntary Sobriety with Soberlink
Through All of My Ups and Downs
Visibility is Key
Accountability and Comfort
Safer Parenting Time
The Missing Piece
Safety Net for Recovery
Trust in our Marriage
A Great Head StartWhen I started using Soberlink I was going through a rough divorce with a spouse who was trying to get custody of my children. Finding and using Soberlink voluntarily during my divorce process helped ensure that I maintained custody of my children and gave me a great head start on staying sober. If it weren't for this device my custody battle would have been a lot harder than it was.
My Daughter Has Her Mom BackWhen I first started using Soberlink as a requirement to spend time with my daughter, others saw it as a nuisance, I was grateful for the chance to be accountable and have some kind of track record I could use. It was no longer my word against nothing. My credibility had disappeared. It was no longer just me saying yes I’m sober. I had proof. I’ll be the first to admit being expected to take tests, helps me stay sober. AA, the steps and my sponsor are necessary too, of course, but I’m very grateful for so much and being sober is worth it. My daughter has her mom back. My marriage had already failed. Nothing, not even sobriety, was going to fix that. I’ve been sober for over 2 years now, and I couldn’t imagine going back. Life is not perfect, but it is amazing compared to what it was before. I was a shell of a person as an active alcoholic. Now I’m a useful member of society again.
A New ChapterMarch of this year was the beginning of the end for me. My father was diagnosed with cancer in early March. My grandfather, whom I was very close with, died mid-March, my grandmother had brain surgery, and my divorce was final, via mediation on March 25th of this year. All of these events sprung me into my worse stint of drinking ever. I had to drink in the morning to stop the shakes. I would have a couple at noon, then after work drink until I passed out. This went on for nearly a month until I drove myself, and checked in at Fairbanks again on April 25th. I blew a .26 BAC.
I realize now that I was very lucky I was never arrested, killed, or hurt anyone. I drove drunk all the time. I knew this time in rehab it had to, and would be different. I came because I wanted to, not because I was told to. So here we are now, and I start the next chapter of my life. Soberlink has helped me get my life on track, and regain the trust of my ex-wife. It has also helped me rekindle my relationship with my kids.
Safe DetoxAs a therapist, I have worked with Soberlink to provide a wide array of monitoring. The situations have typically allowed for parental visits with children and opportunities for individuals to document compliance with alcohol abstinence. However, I had one client who arrived in my office in a state of alcohol withdrawal late on a Friday. He was refusing to go to detox, but did agree to a stepped down use process to manage the withdrawals in a safe manner. In coordination with his physician, we used the Soberlink Device to monitor his level of alcohol and adjust alcohol intake as he stepped down the alcohol use to get to a zero level through the weekend. It was very helpful to be able to monitor remotely and for the client to see the actual levels decreasing as he worked through the weekend. This was the beginning a clinical course that established his sobriety.
Why Couldn't They Trust MeI was hesitant to submit to an external Device to prove to others that I was sober. Why couldn't they trust me? Why did I need to be connected to this Soberlink? I have benefited from Soberlink tremendously, and today I am grateful for the gap that Soberlink continues to bridge with both my loved ones and the courts to document my continued sobriety. Soberlink continues to restore hope and trust!
Grateful for SobrietyI went through treatment twice, and still relapsed. I really needed something to hold me accountable and NOT allow me to somehow manipulate my way out it. I initially offered to use Soberlink on my own to help show I was sober to my children's father and my friends/family. But it wasn't until I handed my account control over to my counselor and a family member, that I truly started to get better. If I was to drink, I would get caught. For me, the manipulative side of me and my disease was too strong to be trusted to manage my own testing. It was frustrating at times, and I felt somewhat controlled at points. If I asked myself "Do you want to be sober or not? Either you do or you don't. Do you want your kids back? If you drink, that's all over with." If I thought about it that way, I could just push (somedays slog) onward and make it another day sober! I just focused on being grateful for this tool, instead of controlled by it. I can honestly say that I would not be sober, surrounded by my beautiful kids, living an incredible life if it weren't for my annoying little blue pal Soberlink. The next step is graduating from Soberlink - very scary but I have built a pretty solid daily practice and support system. I recommend Soberlink if you really want to be sober. It's hard to give up control to someone else but for me it's what I needed, and it was a lot easier than being in active addiction and trying to do it on my own.
Peace of MindMy husband was struggling to stay sober. I had kicked him out of the house, and his sponsor suggested he move to a half way house, which he did for four months. In an effort to be more accountable to me, himself, and his sponsor, he signed up for Soberlink. He explained the admin information to me, so I was able to set up a schedule and monitor. He agreed to do it for one year, or until I was comfortable. He has over 16 months sober now and part of my peace of mind came from Soberlink. I recommend it to people who are looking for another level of accountability for their loved ones.
Voluntary Sobriety with SoberlinkI started using Soberlink after my last stint in rehab. I voluntarily signed up to help me stay sober and be accountable. I used a third party monitor and also continued outpatient therapy. I used this for a show of faith for my employer and family. I have been sober over 2 years and still use Soberlink once a day, every night. It has been a helpful tool in keeping me sober and I just signed up with my monitor to use Soberlink for another year. I want to make sure that I do not drink again and night time was always a struggle. I am so happy that something like this exists and is so easy to use and affordable.
— Anonymous, Florida
Through All of My Ups and DownsSoberlink has changed my life in the best way possible.
I’ve been in over 25 rehabs in 8 states since 1990. At my lowest I was drinking bottles of hairspray, hand sanitizer, and rubbing alcohol. Nothing ever seemed to keep me sober and I’ve been to some of the best facilities in the nation. I’ve been hospitalized over thirty times. I’ve been in the ICU at least four times. I’ve even been on a ventilator and hooked up to a heart monitor unit. I cannot count the number of times I’ve suffered epileptic seizures.
At any rate, I finally met up with my counselor in 2011 and she told me about Soberlink. I developed a close connection and opened up with her. My Soberlink was like a direct link to her through all of my ups and downs. Early on, she would catch all of my slips and it kept me on track. I’m 48 now and I started at 22. I’m coming up on two years, a milestone for me, and I’ve grown happier and happier.
― Anonymous, South Carolina
Visibility is KeySoberlink has been helpful in allowing me to be accountable to my daughter. The routine of submitting tests gives my family a level of comfort and helps with my efforts to re-establish trust with them. It is a very helpful tool on this road towards recovery.
― Anonymous, New York
Accountability and ComfortSoberlink gave me the peace-of-mind I needed while my ex-husband had our kids. Being able to log on and see each test with his picture was key for me, and the missed tests alerts were very handy as well.
― Anonymous, California
Proving SobrietyI began using Soberlink due to alcoholism, I continue to use it to prove my sobriety to those around me.
― Anonymous, Massachusetts
Found FreedomI was a closet drinker, constantly hiding it, sneaking around, planning opportunities to be left alone to drink. In a home with a beautiful wife and five kids, it was exhausting. When I had had enough, I went to rehab. Imagine when I figured out I wasn't fooling anyone all that time! I was then faced with the prospect of how to regain my family's trust. Soberlink has been a great start!
When I am busy at work and miss my wife's calls, she no longer has to wonder if I am avoiding her calls to hide my slurred speech! She no longer has to wonder if I am drinking when I am fishing, golfing, etc. She finally has the freedom to have some personal care time, such as going out of town with her sisters, rather than feeling that she has to watch after me. Together, we set up the Soberlink daily schedule and it reports to her once per week. It also reports to my addictions counselor. She knows she is not ultimately responsible for my sobriety, but it does help build trust.
Consequently, we both feel a greater sense of freedom. The machine works just as is claimed, as does the software. I love this product and highly recommend it!
— Anonymous, Oregon
Safer Parenting TimeI had recently undergone successful treatment for an addiction to alcohol, when my husband filed for divorce and contested my fitness as a parent. I agreed to alcohol testing at a local lab, and two false positive test results later (one of which subsequently retested as negative), my teen children were removed from my custody for more than two months. My attorney and I asked for a more reliable testing method, and the only thing the judge would accept was an ankle bracelet to monitor sobriety, which was unacceptable to me. Research led my attorney to propose Soberlink as an alternative. We were able to show the judge a clear record of dozens of consecutive negative Soberlink tests, even in the face of yet another false positive from the lab. Fast forward one year later, and my local county court system has adopted Soberlink as the gold standard for monitoring sobriety. I believe that the reliability of Soberlink will likely prevent another falsely accused parent from having their children taken away.
— Anonymous, California
Rebuilding TrustI use my Soberlink voluntarily; which means that I am not monitored by any local or state agency. Rather, my results are reported to a few key people in my life who have a personal stake in my sobriety. Along with other recovery strategies (counseling, AA, etc.), Soberlink has been an indispensable tool for maintaining my sobriety. It gives me accountability to the people who matter the most to me and has been invaluable for rebuilding the trust that my drinking destroyed. It is easy to use and technical support has been prompt and helpful.
— Anonymous, Oregon
The Missing PieceI tried and failed many times to stay sober for extended periods of time. After two 30 day stays in a residential alcohol treatment center and hundreds of AA meetings, I always seemed to have a relapse. While I believe the 12-step program and a belief in a higher power has worked for thousands of people, for me, I just needed that one extra tool.
I have been a Soberlink user now almost 5 years. It was the missing piece for me in keeping me sober. What started out as the only thing that I could use to prove to my ex-wife (my Soberlink admin) that I wasn't drinking while our kids were with me, became a daily savior. The only other alternative was very expensive and cumbersome devices through county social services.
For me, the fact I need to submit a test approximately 5 times per day has kept me sober. It started out as white knuckling it a bit, but the fact that I have the monitor, and that I have to submit tests, and you can't lie, has kept me sober.
I think the Soberlink system is a great alternative for people that need that extra one thing besides traditional programs to get and stay sober. Thanks for the great technology and introducing a new tool that can work for many to keep them sober.
— Anonymous, Wisconsin
Safety Net for RecoveryI started using Soberlink after I left Treatment almost 2.5 years ago. I used it as a safety net for my sobriety and also to stay accountable. I had some custody issues and I felt like this was the best way to build my "sober resume". I also use Soberlink to give my family peace of mind. This helped me by taking away the "maybe just one drink, or I can get away with it". I don't have to battle my alcoholism when these random thoughts float into my head. My sobriety date is April 11th, 2014. I still use Soberlink twice a day 8pm and 8am. I like that Soberlink is flexible for what works best for me and my family. My monitor can change the times when needed, and it's nice to have reminder texts. I know that working a recovery program is keeping me sober, but Soberlink has been a huge asset for keeping me sober and since I got sober I have now gotten full custody of my children. My family has visited me 5 times this year, and life is beautiful, I am forever grateful. If I could add one feature of Soberlink it would be to make it smaller, other than that everything seems to work well and I have always been given excellent support from the Soberlink team for any questions.
— Anonymous, Florida
Trust in our MarriageSoberlink has been a valuable asset to my ongoing sobriety as it adds an extra layer of accountability and has helped rebuild trust in our marriage.
— Anonymous, Minnesota
16-Year BattleMy ex-husband set up Soberlink as part of our custody arrangement so that I could keep joint custody of my son. I have been battling alcoholism for 16 years. Soberlink allowed me to not only keep my son, by letting my ex-husband verify that I was not drunk when I had my son, it helped me get sober. I am currently 9.5 months sober and Soberlink has helped me achieve that.
— Anonymous, Texas
*These Sober Stories were submitted by real people who have used Soberlink. Contributors received a $25.00 gift card for sharing their stories. Each story was edited for clarity and grammar.
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